Astrology's 8th House
Rolling in the 8th House of Deep Transformationby Maria DeSimone
In my work as a counseling astrologer, I tend to get right to the point.
Within the first 10 minutes of a session I usually uncover at least one deep short circuit that somehow blocks my client from moving forward in his or her personal development. I'm not here to tell you how amazing your birth chart is and how your planetary combinations are the best thing since sliced bread. Nope, if you want an ego boost go to another astrologer.
Personally, I want your soul to get the most bang for its buck while you're here on Earth having that proverbial "human experience." As a result, I tend to go right to your issues. You know the ones I'm talking about. Those traumatic experiences and penetrating bubbles of unresolved conflict in your psyche that you prefer to bury. Well, as a counseling astrologer, I consider it my job to "go there." That's how I roll. Deep. And nothing gets you deeper into the pit of your soul's pain than a good, honest look at your 8th House of Deep Transformation.
You can find out if you have any planets in your 8th House with an Essential Birth Chart report. And if you want to understand the true depth of the 8th House, beyond the trite explanation about this being the area of your chart that represents sex, death and taxes, take a minute to read this poem. I swear, poet Stephen Crane nailed the 8th House without even trying.
I read this poem out loud to all of my beginner students to quickly convey the potency of the 8th House. There is such power available to you once you're willing to confront your dark side and/or the ugly things that have been done to you by others. Have a read:
In the Desert
In the desert
I saw a creature, naked, bestial,
Who, squatting upon the ground,
Held his heart in his hands,
And ate of it.
I said: "Is it good, friend?"
"It is bitter -- bitter," he answered;
"But I like it
Because it is bitter,
And because it is my heart."
Whoa. I know. Deep, cleansing breath. THAT was intense! Not entirely comfortable, either. And yet, you get it don't you? The 8th House of Deep Transformation is named as such for a reason. This is where we confront and transmute the most agonizing pain we experience in our lifetime. This is where we deal with our fear of intimacy, and of losing control to another. The 8th House is where our trust issues lie quietly in the dark, with both eyes wide open and a knife under the pillow.
Confronting your personal trauma
We all have experienced trauma -- some more than others. Whatever your personal trauma is, the hard truth is that these bitter parts of you and your past will haunt you forever until you're ready to rip them out of your heart and confront them. CONSUME them or be consumed by them! If you can't achieve this on your own, I encourage you to book a session with me. I'll get you there.
There is exquisite power available to you once you're willing to confront either your own dark side or the ugly things that have been done to you by others. The 8th House is about power, but what most people don't realize is that what we're after is the proper use of power gained through intense self-reflection, healing and forgiveness. It's where your soul must peel off a layer of dead skin and make itself bleed in order to renew itself.
Maybe it's because of my own 8th House Moon-Neptune-North Node placement, but I've always been comfortable in the dark -- even if I'm afraid. Especially when I'm afraid, ironically. Somehow, I intuitively know that it's only by opening my eyes in the dark and facing those monsters head on that I'll ever truly be free from them. The same goes for you.
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